Wendy Jane’s Weekend Sounds: Don’t Touch My Hair by Solange

9 Oct

solange-knowlesHonoring Black women who speak their truth to power.  Here is Solange’s, no longer needing to be known as Beyonce’s little sister, Don’t Touch My Hair.

Also having checked out Cranes In The Sky, I look forward to listening to more of her album, A Seat At The Table.

Take a listen, and soak in the visuals, of this important piece of work.



I also wanted to share Just Latasha’s review of A Seat Of The Table, where she breaks down Solange’s work song by song of what this creative output means to her as a Black women.




SOURCES:  www.youtube.com, Solange, Don’t Touch My Hair, posted by Solangeknowlesmusic

www.youtube.com, JustLatasha


Latasha, is a NYC based artist with a background in Communications whose passion for Black art & activism led her to create JustLatasha, a site where you can find her comedic vlogs about social issues which reaches over 8,000 subscribers twice a week. She is also the creator and lead actress of the comedy web series, Sit Black & Relax, which debuted March 14th, 2016.





2 Responses to “Wendy Jane’s Weekend Sounds: Don’t Touch My Hair by Solange”

  1. Sherry Gordon October 9, 2016 at 2:33 pm #

    Dear Wendy Jane,

    Hi, there, Wendy Jane, my For Always so, so very precious, special, and awesome soul sisterfriend and the so, so very right on white woman, friend, and sister who you’re For Always so, so very much!!!!!! Wow, sister, wow!!!!! What a brilliantly sharp, expressive, and very creative blog post article this is here of yours, my so, so very dearest sister and friend!!!!! Wow!!!!! The music and singing here is just powerful and says so much! Your musical contributions here of the great Solange singing here with the powerful review by Latasha of Solange’s song are just perfect here, absolutely perfect, and just awesome, Wendy Jane!!!!! It’s great to see and to hear more about Solange getting her day and credit and not just her older sister, Beyonce, and it’s marvelous that Solange is having her day and her own fame as well, sister!!!!! Wow!!!!! Yay!!!!!

    My sweet white sister, Wendy Jane, for me as the black woman and the lesbian black woman who I am, YOU Wendy Jane as my so, so very dearest and darling sweet white sisterfriend, and other wondrously wonderful white women in my very, very heart, and my very, very heart, mind, soul, and spirit will For Always have a seat at the table, and I welcome YOU sisterfriend Wendy Jane, and other absolutely amazing white women with lovingly straight from my very, very heart because YOU Wendy Jane and other white women are my very, very heart, and also my very, very heartsblood, and very, very lifesblood as I reach out to each and every one of you and include all of you as absolutely fabulous white women. I along with other black women need to have a voice and express agency but my very, very heart, and very, very heart and spirit with all that I have in my very, very heart, and very, very heart, mind, soul, and spirit would come from a different place than a lot of other black women. Racism is very real but like when I think of my own family with all of the abuse in every way growing up, the alcoholism and addictions rampant up and down both sides of my family, that with all of that my former low self-esteem issues like with how I used to feel badly about my hair as well as the rest of my body image came from the very poor role modeling I received from my father and mother and from other relatives. Like with my dear late mother, and dear late maternal grandmother, and dear late maternal great-grandmother, and with other women in my family on my father’s side, they were not good role models for me in having such mean ways and low self-esteem as to how they felt toward themselves like with their own hair and their own troubled body image, and they passed that along down to me and made fun of my hair and body teaching me to not value my hair and my body, sister. Racism is very real but I think that we as black people and black women also must look within to see if we had learned to devalue ourselves from poor role modeling received from parents and other adults and like when there is mistreatment toward one another in black families and in the black communities. Sister, I think that it is important that we as black persons and black women don’t always put the blame on white persons and on racism. We have to look at our own situations and what we might have learned from our role models with black families and the black communities. Being away from my family for decades for safety reasons even to protect my very life, and having been in past and current, ongoing therapy and being a member in my very, very many, multiple 12-Step Programs all have very greatly and immensely blessed me and helped me to learn, heal, and to grow, and to love myself more, to love my hair more, and to love my body more, sisterfriend Wendy Jane. Sister, I don’t wear wigs myself. I’ve been wearing my hair in a natural afro since 1989, my so, so very dearest and darling friend and sister, Wendy Jane. The women in my family like with my dear late mother, dear late maternal grandmother, and dear late maternal great-grandmother and other women relatives on my father’s side of the family would wear wigs a whole lot and they felt very badly about their hair, and I had picked up on that and learned that from them. I know that these very same dynamics happen with some other black people and black women, and in some other black families. Often I would be abused by my parents and family when they deemed that I didn’t keep my hair perfectly and they’d be all uptight, and I learned to be sensitive and uptight about my own hair and body image from my parents and rest of the family which I think that they are chiefly responsible for how I used to view myself more negatively, and I don’t think that white people and racism are the chief culprits in all of this even with racism playing a role. Sister, wow, it is such a joyous blessing, honor, and pleasure sharing so, so very openly and honestly with YOU, dear, dear precious Wendy Jane, and with your awesome blog here!!!!!! Wow!!!!! Yay!!!!!! I so, so very much love YOU, my so, so very special and precious For Always white soul sisterfriend who you’re For Always so, so very much, Wendy Jane, along with other spectacular white women, and I’ve previously been in interracial lesbian relationships with splendid white women and I yearn to someday be in another interracial lesbian relationship with a white woman but also I so, so very much love and cherish YOU, sister and friend Wendy Jane, and other wondrously wonderful white women as my very, very many cool and so, so very dearest and darling sisterfriends!!!!! Wow!!!!! Yay!!!!! I would never ever shut out or exclude YOU, my sweet white friend, Wendy Jane, and other white women, and I don’t mind in the least being asked a lot of questions about being black, being a black woman, being a lesbian black woman, and I never ever feel tired or imposed upon, and I have a very gentle, sweet, loving, and patient manner about me!!!!! I love all of you as white persons, very, very especially YOU, Wendy Jane, and other wondrously wonderful white women as you all are my very, very heart as white women, and also my very, very heartsblood, and my very, very lifesblood as white women, and all white persons are my remarkable sisters and brothers as children of our So, So Very Good God!!!!!! I mean this from my very, very heart, and my very, very heart, mind, soul, and spirit my so very cool sister and friend, Wendy Jane!!!!! Sister, I so, so very much appreciate, love, like, and enjoy your so, so very dear heart and love for us as black people, and your very deeply sincere and special love of black culture in all of its beautiful variety and aspects, sister, as you For Always show with your love and friendships with us, and with all of your awesome blog post articles and other very fine and excellent writings!!!!! Sister, you are such a right on white woman, sister, and I love your great contribution here and all of the other ones elsewhere as you have given all of us as black persons, and all of the others such a precious blessing and a gift!!!!! I thank-you so, so very much, so, so very profusely, kindly, dearly, and deeply, sister!!!!! Yay!!!!! Wow!!!!!! Yay for YOU, Wendy Jane!!!!! Yay!!!!!! Yay for our friendship and sisterhood For Always, Wendy Jane!!!!! Yay!!!!!! Sister, I will for sure write all of my other responses to this magnificent blog post article as soon as I am at home and at my computer. I’ll be away from my computer and not at home but I just can’t wait to do all of my other responses, and I’m just bursting with such very, very eager anticipation to very, very delightfully and eagerly do all of my responses!!!!! Wow, Wendy Jane, wow!!!!!! Yay yay yay yay!!!!! Sister, please have such a blessed and superbly super Sunday, such a wondrously wonderful week ahead, and may all of your days be so, so very especially blessed, Wendy Jane!!!!! Sisterfriend, you are my and our very, very joy and blessing, and you are just the very, very epitome of such very overall awesomeness, Wendy Jane!!!!! Yay!!!!!!!

    Very Warmly and Sincerely For Always, my sweet sister who you’re For Always so, so very much, Wendy Jane, with Such Peace and Love To You For Always, my sweet friend, with Such Very Blessings and Such Even More Blessings To You For Always, my so, so very special and precious soul sisterfriend who you’re For Always so, so very much,

    Yours For Always soul sisterfriend and spirit black woman and For Always in the very spirit and solidarity, Sherry Gordon in Iowa City, Iowa

    • Wendy Jane October 9, 2016 at 3:00 pm #

      Hi Sherry,

      Thanks so much for sounding in here. You know I always, always, appreciate your support so much.

      It was so interesting for me to hear about your own family and how you feel that they carried the shame within themselves and passed it on to you, about their hair, your hair, which white European society deemed as inferior to “white” hair. I’m grateful for you giving me a peek into what it was like for you to grow up with this outlook, and how it affected your self-esteem. I know, as you have shared previously here, that you have done so much work on yourself, and have been able to learn to love yourself despite the difficulties you had growing up in your family–you are an unshakeable woman, now, and I am always so humbled by your kind, kind words for me.

      I can’t thank you enough, sisterfriend!

      Wendy Jane

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